Babies grip objects and fingers and things in a way that lacks control, or awareness.
They themselves are grappling with the coordination to grip and release intentionally.
In the same way, at any age between about 0 and 8, you are internalizing a lot of objects, people and feelings that you don’t have the cognizance to release. The hand stays tensed around the feelings and thoughts that young you had.
Sometimes it is not only good enough to embrace the feelings of young you as an adult.
Young you still has it all gripped within their tensed hands.
To help them release it, you need to go sit with them – join them as older you, and let them release it to you.
Go tell them it is okay and that you are safe to let them give it to you.
The only requisites are that you become the safety they need, and that you sit with them as long as it takes for them to let go.
Attribution: Photo by Yuri Yuhara
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